Meeting yourself where you are...

In my personal life I have a short list of friends that I still talk on the phone too. I love those calls. The calls and the people ground me. These talks are special because it is rare to find someone who will carve out time in their day to talk to you. These calls remind me of parts of myself that I have stated that I wanted to grow but often find ways to ignore. These calls are with the people who have never been afraid to tell me when I have gone too far or ask me the hard questions while listening to my overly detailed answers.

Over the past week I have had two of these phone calls that both reminded that my goal of 2019 was to start to “un-do” and continue to work towards slowing down and being present. Even at this moment I have cupcakes in the oven, sweet potato hash on the rack below and am writing this blog post all before 7am. Some of us run on high. Some of us will always have six different projects going. I thrive with those people- I am that person.

I also know that we all need to meet ourselves where we are at and where we are at is an ever moving target. 2019 has been a year of celebration and growth so far outside of my comfort zone that there are moments where I forget to breathe. I know I am not alone in this. This year has brought so much change to a lot of people. If that is you I invite you to join me in giving yourself permission to simply be where you are right now. Take a cue from Brene Brown and actually write yourself a permission slip on a piece of paper.

My permission slip will say that I can spend the next two weeks on vacation and return to blogging when I am ready. It will be a remind to let myself be human and stop needing to be super human. That sometimes the not-doing of things actually brings us the greatest reward.

I invite you to give yourself permission to leave things a bit un-done, to leave parts of your life open. If history and research stand true I wager that you will find magic in the letting go. When we stop holding on so tightly to things around us we will find the space and grace we so desire.

Mary Sanker